Cry It Out
Fukn Crap.
I guess she’s learning to sleep, but at what cost?
Sounds to me like she’s just learning to cry.
She never cried this much before.
Before we got to hang out for late evening walks around the park or we did the dishes together.
Now it’s me doing the dishes alone while she cries herself to sleep in the other room.
How is this better?
– b
There are 5 Comments to "Cry It Out"
It is tough, but the alternative is having her sleep in your bed until she is three, then having her mommy sleep in her bed after that while you sleep alone. And that is not so good either . . .
No. That’s not the only alternative. It’s amazing how easily a lot of people jump to the “3 years of sleeping with mommy & daddy” conclusion as soon as someone mentions they’ve slept with their infants. I know plenty of people who’ve successfully managed co-sleeping – and only a few stories of those who didn’t.
It’s a perfectly acceptable method if done correctly (like any method). Unfortunately it’s not one that will work in our environment.
As the Mom, I have to say she is sleeping better. She used to wake up every 1 – 2.5 hours. That was not good for her or me. Now she sleeps 2.5 – 6 hours at a stretch. That’s right, I said 6 hours! In a row.
Staying up late is fun, I’ll give you that, but kids need an early and routine bedtime.
Sorry, I should have started with “The alternative with my family . . . “My daughter did not sleep in our bed until she was 2.5, and then it took six months to get her go back to her bed in her room. Since then, she has slept along maybe ten nights by herself, as she just cries for mommy to sleep in her bed. That being said, it was kinda lonely when she left.
So not judging, but if I could do it again, I would not have let her sleep in our bed because it has been impossible to get her to sleep alone.
Ah. That makes more sense. I have another friend in a similar predicament with his son. From all that I’ve heard co-sleeping when they’re older is nearly impossible. At least when they’re infants you can manage for your own convenience as long as you get them out before they’re old enough to realize where they are. Once they realize the comfort and safety of Mom & Dad’s bed, it’s a whole different (losing) ball game.
I’m hoping when we reach that age, the dog can play a bigger role (she needs to earn her keep somehow – stinking freeloader). Maybe it will be enough to have Gretchen sleep with Abigail or in her room for comfort. At least that’s my shortsighted plan for now.